Earlier this summer, I read the book To Become One by Chris Seay and Chad Karger. Chris and Chad are pastors of a progressive Christian community in Houston called Ecclesia. The title of the book is a play on words, stemming from Genesis 2:24 – “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” The authors write this book for newlyweds and those in a relationship nearing marriage. Overall, I would say the book is mediocre at best. But the more I have reflected on it, as a pastor, this would be a book I would recommend to those who are engaged. The authors will not blow you away with profound statements. They will probably not even say stuff that you haven’t already heard. But they are refreshing. And brutally honest. And the book is full of great reminders. Warning: This book is not like most Christian dating or marriage books. I’ve read others such as I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Let God Write Your Love Story. And I think those books are wonderful for certain type of people. But they also only connect with a portion of Christians. To Become One is a very good complement to these books.
The authors’ wives provide commentary along the way to help see the woman’s point of view in this. The two couples’ stories of their marriage processes are quite different and yet, you see how God still works through relationships in different ways. Like I said, not a five-star book (I only gave it a three-star on Amazon) but I do think it is worth the time to read. It doesn’t take very long but there are some excellent questions that would benefit one that is in a relationship.
I have to admit, I am not married though. One who is married may have a far different opinion of this book. And who knows, ten years down the road, my own opinion may also change.